TIPS ON HOW YOU CAN SUPPORT YOUR CHILD

CLINICAL psychologist Matsedeso Nthako shares tips on how you can support your child through the painful period of either failing their matric exams or not performing as they had expected.

– First, parents and loved ones need to recognise that children have different strengths, and should not be compared to other children or their siblings.

– Allow them to acknowledge their failures and feelings. It is okay to feel angry and disappointed.

– Help them to reframe their mindset regarding failure. Let them know that failure is also part of life, and that it can help them learn more about themselves.

– Failure can be a stepping stone towards success. Not getting the outcome they want, does not deny their efforts. It is also crucial to use this time to reflect on your child’s strengths and how to improve on their weak points, which everyone has.

– It’s important to emphasise that failing matric does not make they are a failure as a person, so they should keep trying.

– Help children to explore other options that are available out there, such as supplementary exams, applying for remarks, getting tutoring, bridging courses, and FET colleges.

– Speaking to a career or school counsellor for further guidance and assessment of their strengths can also be a valuable experience.

– Concerned parents can contact organisations that offer counselling services such as Sadag on their toll-free number 0800 567 567 or their 24-hour helpline 0800 456 789.

– Get your children to talk about how they are feeling with someone they trust or a mental health professional.